Sep 4, 2018
Assertiveness? Who else is
a little afraid of that word? In this week’s episode, Dr.
Julie Hanks talks to us about the value of being assertive and how
it is a benefit to both you and your family. Julie is the
owner of Wasatch Family Therapy. She is a licensed therapist and
the author of both The
Burnout Cure: An Emotional Survival Guide For Overwhelmed
The Assertiveness guide for
Women: How to communicate your needs, set healthy boundaries and
transform your relationships. If you feel like sometimes your needs
aren’t met in your relationships whether it is as a mother, spouse,
friend or co-worker, you are going to want to listen to this
episode! Here is what we talked about:
it means to be assertive.
- Common misconceptions women have about being
to act on your own needs without feeling selfish.
it’s important for women to learn to express their
three different communication styles.
“Lantern Stance” style of communication and its
five skills to improve your assertive communication:
self-reflection to impact your ability to be assertive in the
self-awareness to understand what you think, feel, want, and
- Self-soothing to connect with your current
self-expression to express what you are feeling.
expansion: allowing yourself to be changed.
importance of modeling proper assertive communication for you
value of practicing self-compassion.
to learn to say “no” and be ok with it.
it’s important to learn to say “no”.
Julie used the five skills to assertive communication skills to
turn a heated discussion into a relationship building experience
with her daughter.
- Learning to be curious in your parenting
instead of shameful.
Mom squad Challenge: Practice Self Compassion. If you’re
suffering, treat yourself kindly instead of beating yourself up.
We all have times where we’re feeling something we don’t want
to feel. Give yourself a break and tell yourself it is